Day 3 went off with few little hitches ... she spent a good portion of the morning and afternoon in the bedroom listening to her gospel cd's and doing god knows what. I try to give her as much privacy as I can and just let her be.
Come evening I thought we were going to have an argument but managed to side step it.
She came out into the living room and wanted to watch television ... ok no biggie but I shouldnt have to change my routine or the things i watch because she is here ...should i? I mean thats why we made sure that she had a television in her room. Anyhow she was certainly expecting it and I was going to snap a gasket .... hubby finally talked her into watching what we were watching. She sat out here for an hour then went to bed.
Sigh!
Monday, February 21, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Day 2
Back a few weeks ago we get a call from my mother in law that lives or shall I say lived in Alabama. A little bit of back story here ... my father in law passed away nearly 2 years ago and since then my mother in law has really been through the ringer to say the least.
Jump forward to today her youngest son has stolen $85,000 from her and left her homeless as her home was foreclosed on. Her middle son doesnt want the responsibility to care for her because he is self centered and could care less.
The phone call comes and she asks to come and live with us. We scramble and pack and leave for Alabama in 3 days. It takes us 2 days to get there between hubby and I both driving. We arrive late Sunday night. Monday morning hubby goes to meet with the state DHR people and in that time frame I decide it is time to leave. I cannot stay with his brother even one more night. His house is filthy and he is an ass to say the least. So we hit the road.
It takes us 4 days to get home and we make it on Thursday just after midnight.
Yesterday(being Friday) I spend the morning and afternoon unpacking her and getting her settled and getting her showered etc. She does not need 100% care but I would say about 90% care.
Today is Saturday. She is very quiet and drawn within herself. Not speaking to either hubby or I and wants to spend her day in the bedroom. I have shopping I want and need to do and we cannot go do it because someone has to stay with her all the time. So we either drag her out in her gloomy state and god knows if she will really make it or I go alone and leave hubby here at home with her. I am thinking that might be the way to go and give myself some time away and out without either of them.
I know that what we are doing is a good thing and I would do it for my parents also but this is going to definitely try my patience and my adapting skills are not going to be the greatest.
I intend to use this blog to rant and rave and let out all my feelings and emotions because I do not want hubby nor her to feel like I cannot handle this.
Jump forward to today her youngest son has stolen $85,000 from her and left her homeless as her home was foreclosed on. Her middle son doesnt want the responsibility to care for her because he is self centered and could care less.
The phone call comes and she asks to come and live with us. We scramble and pack and leave for Alabama in 3 days. It takes us 2 days to get there between hubby and I both driving. We arrive late Sunday night. Monday morning hubby goes to meet with the state DHR people and in that time frame I decide it is time to leave. I cannot stay with his brother even one more night. His house is filthy and he is an ass to say the least. So we hit the road.
It takes us 4 days to get home and we make it on Thursday just after midnight.
Yesterday(being Friday) I spend the morning and afternoon unpacking her and getting her settled and getting her showered etc. She does not need 100% care but I would say about 90% care.
Today is Saturday. She is very quiet and drawn within herself. Not speaking to either hubby or I and wants to spend her day in the bedroom. I have shopping I want and need to do and we cannot go do it because someone has to stay with her all the time. So we either drag her out in her gloomy state and god knows if she will really make it or I go alone and leave hubby here at home with her. I am thinking that might be the way to go and give myself some time away and out without either of them.
I know that what we are doing is a good thing and I would do it for my parents also but this is going to definitely try my patience and my adapting skills are not going to be the greatest.
I intend to use this blog to rant and rave and let out all my feelings and emotions because I do not want hubby nor her to feel like I cannot handle this.
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